“Oh my gosh, look over there. That’s the girl with the blog. I feel so bad for her…”
Well, do you know her?
No.
So why do you feel bad for her?
Well, she’s such a sweet person.
How do you know that?
Her social media…..duhhhhhh.
“The girl that seemed to have it all together got a good taste of her own medicine”.
What goes around comes around. A statement we’re all too familiar with. See, I know my ex-husband had to be my good-karma. Before meeting him I was young and careless. I had my first heartbreak early. So after that I didn’t care about anyone’s feelings.
I remember in 06′ I dated this guy that had a girlfriend. Wait a minute before you try to judge me… that girlfriend, let’s call her Jessica. Jessica found out about me from her side dude. Yeah, you heard me right, she was doing her thing also. So this situation was a big mess to begin with. I was too young, dumb, and full of… never mind. Let’s just say, I was happy and selfish.
Why do we as humans act like when there’s an addition to our situation that our significant other had nothing to do with it? Could my karma have come from that? She was doing her thing just as well as he was… Thank God social media wasn’t where everyone ran to then with all their problems…..
During another situation, I met a new guy and he became my boyfriend. He sent me a relationship request on Facebook. I didn’t approve it, so he said I was trying to hide something. Anyone ever feel like once you put it on the book you’ll tarnish it or close all of your potential open doors? It’s like you’re a little sexier single….or maybe not. Sometimes no one pays you any attention until you’re taken. Back to my new boo…
Since I didn’t have anything to hide I approved the request. I was in lala land, he was so sweet, and the only bad thing was he had a baby on the way. (Always remember kids are never a bad thing.) So before you know it, guess who wanted to come in my inbox? You guessed it, the pregnant baby mama. She had some of the sweetest words to say to me. “Bit*ch how much do I have to pay you to leave my man alone?” (I was insulted to the 3rd power!!!!) I couldn’t be bought he didn’t even have a car. That’s beside the point. What man would send that stupid request knowing they were in another relationship? Him! So what did I do? I let him sell me all the stupid lies.
“She’s just my baby mama.”
“We’re not together, I’m with you…”
blah blah blah…
Damn this situation was too familiar, but I was too careless to notice. I remember being that pregnant emotional wreck that one week you were my man. The next week you were my ex, but guess what??? We had a pregnancy countdown still going on. So whether I was on or off with you due to hormones or infidelity, you could never understand. Let’s talk about playing the male role for one day. They wouldn’t know how to handle it.
This girl was a fighter she had me out here looking like the bad guy. Our man was a saint and I was a slut. The slut that was sleeping with the saint. Go figure.
Social media wasn’t my friend then. She was sending people to my page so then I felt the need to prove I was with our man. Even though you can’t take back the hands of time. You can definitely grow from it. I had to go through some life lessons to be the woman I am today. Live in your truth, own up to your mistakes. Those are the things that set you free. Now when I look back I can see how far I’ve come.
Growth